So basically there are 2 guys in her life that I really don’t like. And before people call me insecure or controlling, just hear me out till the end. First guy, let’s call him 'Aditya'. He’s technically her coworker. My girlfriend is abroad while I’m back here in Nepal, so yeah we’re thousands of miles apart. At first I didn’t think much of him. But last December he gifted her this expensive accessories collection box. Not just one bracelet or something small, literally a whole collection knowing she loves accessories. That instantly felt weird to me. Later on, my suspicion grew so one day I asked her to show me her chats. She agreed immediately without hesitation. I checked everything and honestly found nothing suspicious. Then I checked Aditya’s chats. The guy was clearly flirting. Sending flirty reels, texts, even “Happy Valentine’s Day” messages and stuff like that. My girlfriend never flirted back. Her replies were dry, professional, late replies, sometimes ignored him completely. She even had him muted. But what bothered me was that she never directly shut it down either. Like never said “keep it professional” or “don’t talk to me like that.” One day while we were on call, she reached work and that guy approached her and said in this rude, possessive tone: “Why didn’t you reply to my texts?” And she just brushed it off saying she just woke up and couldn’t reply. That pissed me off badly. Mostly at him, but also at her for allowing that kind of behavior. Mind you, they don’t even work side by side. He works night shift from 2am–7am while she works morning shift from 7am–3pm. I told her I didn’t want her talking to him outside work and asked her to unfollow/block him because the vibes were clearly off. It genuinely felt like the guy was trying to get close to her knowing she already has a boyfriend. But her response was: “It’ll create awkwardness at work.” “What if he asks why I blocked him?” “I’ll just ignore him and keep it professional.” And honestly that hurt me more than the situation itself. I started feeling like my feelings mattered less than some random guy’s comfort. Now the second guy is even worse. Let’s call him 'Aryan'. Apparently he’s one of her “best friends.” She says he helped her during her low phase emotionally, supported her, cared for her etc. We talked once through her and I didn’t really like the energy he gave off. So I asked one of my friends from his college about him. My friend straight up said he’s two-faced, flirty and kind of a pervert. To confirm it, I even asked one of my female friends to follow him on Instagram just to see what kind of person he is. And guess what happened? The guy replied to her story within like 2 days. Flirty behavior. The funny part is HE ALREADY HAS A GIRLFRIEND. That’s when I seriously asked my girlfriend to cut him off too because honestly I felt embarrassed having people like that around her. Eventually she agreed and unfollowed him too after I explained everything, but then again she said: “Wouldn’t it be harsh to unfollow without explanation?” “What will he think?” And I’m not gonna lie, hearing that genuinely made me lose attraction little by little. It’s not even about jealousy at this point. I’m not scared she’ll cheat or anything. We’re deeply connected. Both families know about us, we know each other’s siblings and cousins, we’re basically on call 24/7 except during her work or classes. She gives me time, effort, reassurance and doesn’t act shady. But what hurts is that every single time, I feel like I have to beg for basic boundaries. I feel like if someone made her uncomfortable, I’d cut that person off instantly without even thinking twice. So why does it feel so difficult for her? She did unfollow both guys in the end, but I wish she did it because SHE wanted to protect the relationship, not because I had to explain and argue repeatedly. I used to genuinely worship this girl. Now I feel myself slowly pulling away emotionally and I hate that feeling. Feeling emotionally detached after repeatedly begging for basic boundaries. TL;DR: My LDR girlfriend stayed connected to two guys who were clearly crossing boundaries. One coworker flirted with her, gifted her expensive stuff and acted possessive when she didn’t reply. Another “best friend” turned out to be a flirt despite having a girlfriend himself. My gf never entertained them romantically, but she also didn’t shut them down firmly until I repeatedly asked her to unfollow them. She eventually did, but it hurt that I had to convince her instead of her protecting the relationship on her own. Now I feel emotionally tired and slowly less attracted despite still loving her deeply.